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“You grow through, what you go through” - but what if I don’t want to?

That is the harsh reality that we’re dealing with, it’s what we’re living in - constantly forced to grow up and make tough decisions, forced to deal with our future without living in the present. 

Yet, I have accepted it (not fully) but did you? 

It’s ok to not accept the pressure and the standards that society has forced you in but sometimes we do have to face the realities of life, the good, the bad and the ugly. Growing up has it’s positives and negatives but oh, what I would give to be young again! 

The feeling of living carefree, to not worry if I will make ends meet till the end of the month and to not think about the repercussions my actions might have on the future .. oh what I would give. 

We’re constantly stuck in the cycle .. the same cycle of always saying “everything happens for a reason” but let’s be honest, we only say that to make ourselves feel better because, does it really happen for a reason? Maybe the reason why your boyfriend cheated on you is simply because he can’t keep it in his pants - what’s the reason behind that? Maybe the reason your mother doesn’t like you is simply because she doesn’t (and yes there are cases I know of where the parents just don’t care for their children) - what’s that got to do with you?

Sometimes, instead of making someone feel good and saying “everything happens for a reason” or the famous “you grow through, what you go through” - we should just accept the fact that people are mean. Nowadays, humans (all of them) strive on hatred and jealousy (pls don’t tell me otherwise I’m pretty sure you know what I mean) what even, is the point of saying “everything happens for a reason” well no - if someone genuinely hates me or has some sort of hatred towards me and they do not know me then sis, there ain’t no reason there. 

Have you ever been in a situation where your friend asked you for a piece of advice and instead of saying something stupid like the ones I mentioned you thought to yourself - hmm let me shut up (if not you rly should just shut up). 

When I got cheated on I was told “oh I’m sorry but hey, it happens to the best of us, you’ll learn from this experience” amazing advice not really what I wanted to hear 24-Hours after it happened - I would’ve loved if she just paid for my coffee and just stayed quite (based on previous events). 

Anyways .. got of topic (typicallll) 

I love the life I’m living but if I had to go through it again, the advice I would give myself and give you guys is, take it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. 

You will never and you can never take enough precautions to save your soul, something will always go wrong. There is no use of planning your life or maybe even deciding at a young age what you want to do / who you want to spend the rest of your life with because people change. Hopes, dreams, wishes and achievements - they all change. 

I have a younger brother and the one thing I have always told him is to love yourself before you love someone else, get to know who you are before trying to get to know someone else and go through the course of life at the age you should be going through it and not forcing yourself to grow up just because you want to. There is no use in partying from the age of 14 (which I rly don’t get) you can party later on in life, enjoy the simple things at that age because let’s face it - you will never be 14 again.

You will grow through life slowly, one chapter at a time but when you try to go through 5 chapters all together, that is when you are forced to grow - which is not pleasant.

When you’re forced to grow, a piece of you dies. When you’re forced to grow, life will pass you by in an instant, unfortunately, we do not have control over certain life events that will force us and make us grow in odd ways but, we do have control over events that can easily be altered by our decisions. 

Live life day by day, do not try and implement anything that might affect your future or present. 

Live life hour by hour, make sure you get home safe. 

Live life minute by minute, younger you will thank you for that. 

I hope this little post will truly have you reflecting on your current status in life, maybe it will shed light on any rushed decisions, maybe it will help you reflect on what you wish to do in the coming future and maybe, just maybe, it will help you and a friend in need. 

Much Love, 

OC 🤎